My first year of motherhood is coming to a close and I hate to see it go…or do I? I’m not sure yet, but one thing i am sure of is that being a mom is what I was made for.

Even though as I write this my little guy is fussing for a playmate and I will have to stop and restart this passage several more times; I  am okay with that. Because right now I am just proud to say we survived our first year together – even though there were times when I wasn’t sure if we would make it through or not.

We did!

Having a child changes everything you have ever known and it changes in a split second – the very second when your doctor places your babe in your arms for the first time. But, to all other mommas just starting – or even in the middle of – your first year of motherhood, just know its going to be okay, you will survive.

There will be times you are not sure if you can go on….

For awhile I was nursing and our little man did not like being set down. We had to snuggle him constantly. There was a point where I wondered how life could ever be normal again. Would I be able to be touched all day everyday? would I ever be able to get up and get a glass of water again? Yes…In fact, phases like these come and go so quickly, and now my little guy will barely ever hold still long enough to snuggle. Hang in there – better yet – enjoy it, because before you know it they are crawling, walking, playing and are just way too cool to snuggle anymore.

There will be times you feel sad and overwhelmed…

For me I had more tears in my first year of motherhood than my whole entire life combined (yeah..okay, exaggeration, but you get the picture). I felt like I couldn’t balance all the new roles I had. In fact, I felt that way like yesterday. My devotional reminded me that even Jesus needed quiet time and moments wehn he could be alone. We ALL need that. No on is perfect, don’t be afraid to ask for help. And, don’t be afraid to set aside some alone time to do something you love. I went to a movie by myself the other night, something I used to do A LOT before I was married, and it was a nearly spiritual experience. I came back refreshed and relaxed, just what you need to feel to be the best mom you can be.

You will probably feel out of place…

I know I did. Being with y friends was enjoyable, but there were definitely times when I felt like I didn’t belong anymore. My world revolved around my husband and child now. All I had to talk about were my husband and child, but I didn’t want to be THAT person. You know, the one who only talks about their husband and child. I remember when I was single I would be so annoyed by people who seemed so perfect with their kids and happy marriage. But, then when I really thought about it – we listen to friends talk about dates, parties and promotions, whether I really want to or not, so they can put up with diapers, milestones and cute pictures once in awhile. If they are annoyed by that, then they probably aren’t very good friends anyways.

You will DEFINITELY thank God every day for your life…

Everyone always says it. “It’s hard but totally worth it.” They are so right. The stress, anger, guilt, sadness and overwhelm will come and go, but those little smiles, hugs, giggles, first steps, milestones all make it 100% worth it. I thank God daily for finally showing me my life’s purpose – being a mommy.

20 thoughts on “To That Momma In Her First Year of Motherhood

  1. Kendra

    The first year is SO quick! I remember researching reflux, colic, teething, diaper rash, and other things like crazy. Then before I knew it was over! Enjoy that first year – especially the snuggles!

  2. Christine - The Choosy Mommy

    Couldn’t have said it all better myself. There were days I thought were never going to end, that I wasn’t going to see another person ever again besides this baby that wouldn’t stop crying, that I’d never get to sleep again, and so on! But I am so thankful for those days as they helped me become the mother that I am now 🙂

  3. Jessi

    I love this. The first year seems to fly by. My oldest is almost 4 and my baby is 4 months and it just seems to go so fast. I definitely need my alone time some days, but I love these little buggers.

  4. brittany

    I have been through 5 kiddos first years now and they all go by so quick. I was just telling a friend who is new mom to her first child the other day. If I could go back to those first years with my first 3 children I would stay home more. I would spend more time in our pj’s just watching cartoons and soaking in the loves and giggles. I always felt like we needed to be going and doing something all the time. Now that they are in school and sports the years just zoom by. I’d give anything to go back to the days where our weekly grocery shopping was the highlight of our week. Oh brings tears to my eyes just thinking about those days. Those are the days that will be missed the most.

  5. Lamora

    I’m in my 6th year of motherhood, and even though I have 3 kiddos now, it’s easier now than that 1st year. It was a huge learning curve for me. And it was a big adjustment to have the constant giant responsibility of a tiny infant that depended on me for everything. That and not getting any sleep. I’m right there with you wit how many times you cried. With baby #2 it was only like that for about 3 months. With baby #2 I was only out of sorts (crying and crazy and hormonal) for about 1 month. Maybe my babies are getting more laid back and happier, but I think it’s mostly just learning coping mechanisms and baby cues.

  6. Stephanie

    Really beautiful post. That first year of motherhood totally flew by! But I have so many beautiful memories and, even better, pictures! I was too tired sometimes to enjoy some moments, so looking back at pictures is a great way to relive it.

  7. Maureen

    So true! When my son turned one, it felt a sense of accomplishment, that had made it, so much learning, so many tears, joy, and laughter. That first year for sure is one for the memory bank! Thank for sharing knowing I wasn’t alone in the way I felt! 🙂

  8. Paige Rodriguez

    This is so perfectly put, all of it. The first (and now second year) has brought so many transformations, reflections, love, and joy and it definitely hasn’t been easy. That devotion that you referenced about Jesus needing time away, my sister reminded me of that same thing a few months back and it helped so much! It really is true! Taking time away makes me a better mother and wife but it’s difficult allowing ourselves to do that at first I think. Thanks for sharing this, this is lovely.

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